#4. Start slowly till relaxed body
Try it out after you’ve already climaxed, when your body is relaxed. Or take a shower together, and allow your partner to gently massage the area with a soapy finger. Experimenting in the tub or shower can also make you feel “clean,” . If you’ve had a recent bowel movement, you shouldn’t worry about your partner hitting any fecal matter. Waste is held much higher up, in your lower intestine, and won’t make contact with a finger or toy. Any trace remains will be removed through washing.